"When I feel good about my body, my sexual attraction for that guy is not there." "Feeling my own sense of masculinity feels a lot better than sex with guys." "When I'm connected to myself and other guys, all my issues go away."
(Statements from actual clients)
Scientific and Anecdotal Evidence
There is significant scientific evidence which demonstrates that sexuality is rather fluid in nature and can change. The well-known Spitzer Study and the Jones/Yarhouse Study are two significant examples. I recommend the "Journal of Human Sexuality," available on www.therapeuticchoice.com. This publication gives the reader many valuable resources that give much insight into the causes and treatment of homosexuality as well as compelling evidence of change.
This type of evidence is simply the emotional experiences that clients report after they have experienced therapy in session and in their everyday lives. See the brand new site, www.voicesofchange.net. This is the first website created to bring together in one place many stories of successful therapeutic change. Also, look at some of the experiences which clients have reported below:
Marc from Phoenix:
"This really works. I realized being gay was not who I really was. This is tough work, but worth everything to me."
Jim from Burbank:
"This whole manhood thing and getting real love and affirmation from men feels a lot better than sex with men."
Cary from San Diego:
"My depression lifted. I feel my own power as a man. Homosexual feelings just don't come up anymore or
rarely. And, I'm falling in love with a woman. We're talking about getting married."
A Look at Both Sides
There is certainly much controversy about Homosexuality today. One side of the issue states that homosexuality has a cause/effect nature based on severe gender identity inferiority and unfulfilled male emotional needs. The other side simply states that Homosexuality is inborn and unchangeable.
Have you noticed something? One's life, our society, the entire world will change radically on the answer to this single question; Is Homosexuality inborn or not inborn? If it is inborn, individuals and therapists are participating in therapy that will probably not work. If it is not inborn, then Gay individuals and Gay affirmative therapists are participating in therapies that will probably not lead to ultimate fulfillment or happiness. Ultimately, every person must decide for himself.
In the world today, men who want Reintegrative Therapy believe in their hearts that homosexuality, for them, is not inborn. They can feel it. But they often don't know that change is possible, or what to do about it. I invite you to take a look at both sides of the issue, and make up your mind for yourself. The first rule of good scientific evidence for any issue is to be open to consideration of ALL the evidence. What do you think?
Homosexuality is inborn and unchangeable?
Homosexuality is not inborn and can be changed?
I encourage you to read everything you can about both sides. The resource page should be of help to you. I have to be honest here. I don't think you'll find many Gay individuals or Gay affirmative therapists tell you to consider both sides. This is interesting because even the American Psychological Association states that there is no Gay gene. They also state that evidently, homosexuality could be caused by a combination of genetic and environmental influences.
I encourage you to find what fits for you.
David Pickup, LMFT