"When I feel good about my body, my sexual attraction for that guy is not there." "Feeling my own sense of masculinity feels a lot better than sex with guys." "When I'm connected to myself and other guys, all my issues go away."
(Statements from actual clients)
Take a Look at Both Sides:
There is certainly much controversy about Homosexuality today. One side of the issue states
that homosexuality has a cause/effect nature based on severe gender identity inferiority and unfulfilled
male emotional needs. The other side simply states that Homosexuality is inborn and unchangable.
Have you noticed something? One's life, our society, the entire world will change radically on the
answer to this single question; Is Homosexuality inborn or not inborn? If it is inborn, individuals and
therapists are participating in therapy that will not work. If it is not inborn, then Gay individuals and
Gay affirmative therapists are participating in therapies that will probably not lead to ultimate fulfillment
or happiness. Ultimately, every person must decide for himself.
In the world today, men who come to Reintegrative Therapy believe in their hearts that homosexuality, for them, is truly not inborn. They can feel it. But they often don't know that change is possible, or what to do about it. I invite you to take a look at both sides of the issue, and make up your mind for yourself. The first rule of good scientific evidence for any issue is to be open to consideration of ALL the evidence. What do you think?
Homosexuality is inborn and unchangeable?
Homosexuality is not inborn and can be changed?
I encourage you to read everything you can about both sides. The resource page should be of help to you. I have to be honest here. I don't think you'll find many Gay individuals or Gay affirmative therapists tell you to consider both sides. This is interesting because even the American Psychological Association states that there is no Gay gene. They also state that evidently, homosexuality could be caused by a combination of genetic and environmental influences.
I encourage you to find what fits for you.
David Pickup, LMFT